You can never be "just friends" with someone you fell in love with" Do you agree?

Discussion in 'Romance' started by O.tayo, Oct 9, 2016.

  1. Temite Lovest

    Temite Lovest New Member

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    You can be "just friends" with him/her provided
    that both of you have truly moved on from the
    relationship and, most likely, are both secure in
    new relationships.
    Otherwise there will ALWAYS, and I mean
    always, be some sort of ulterior motive on the
    part of one of you to either recover the
    relationship or at least hook up and make things
    emotionally excruciating for both of you. Even
    when both of you know intellectually that you
    are not right for one another, there will be that
    id-driven compulsion.
    Even at the point when both of you have spent a
    significant amount of time apart, are in new
    relationships, and find yourselves able to
    communicate impartially again, why would you
    want to? Even then, you will never, and should
    not, get back to the point where you're best
    buds and are hanging out alone together all the
    time. The sad, sad truth is that once a
    relationship ends, there is no non-painful or
    truly legitimate way to preserve the sense of
    companionship and particular intimacy that
    characterized it and made it, at times, so
    wonderful. I learned that the hard way.
    Honestly, I think the best you can ask for is to
    be on good terms; to perhaps briefly catch up
    now and again, as it's natural to still be curious
    about what's going on in your ex's life; but as
    for an active close friendship, I think that (in
    most cases) is not an option following a
    relationship.
     
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  2. Temite Lovest

    Temite Lovest New Member

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    you can begin to understand that
    "the one" you're meant to be with will be the one
    you stay with. Everyone else who comes in and
    out of your life are people who assume certain
    building blocks of your evolving persona
    throughout life. Let me share my own past story::::: I've loved many girls who fell out
    of love with me, but in time, very few of them
    have been lost to the whims of chance forever.
    I'm very good friends with a lot of ex's. They've
    assumed new roles in my life as people who I've
    shared lovely intimate moments with, and have
    now become someone I can count on; "a friend". Yes! A Friend...
    And if you can turn a bad relationship into a
    meaningful experience such as friendship, it can
    be a very beautiful thing. One simply needs to
    see the forest for the trees.
     
  3. O.tayo

    O.tayo Active Member

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    Hm. My relationship advisor has spoken. Its nice to have you here, my Apostle Of love. :)
     
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  4. Temite Lovest

    Temite Lovest New Member

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    Lolz..... Am happy to be here at last::::: even more happy to see U (O.tayo) doing some Great work here......... Weldone guy.... Kip up d gud work...
     
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  5. Sulaiman Rasidat

    Sulaiman Rasidat New Member

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    There is friendship in love. Even when love leaves for a while, friendship is gonna take over.

    Friendship is kind of similar to love. You can be in love and never have a bit of romantic moments together not even a hug. It can be called friendship in love. Though, telling your partner to stick to friends only will make him think something else thereby declining but deep inside you, you know the love is there but you wanted the friendship to prevail.

    So, you can be just friends. You crush on your friends too, feel the love inside you and you wouldn't want her to go.
    'experience'(winks)
     
  6. O.tayo

    O.tayo Active Member

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    lol. experience
     
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  7. Oluomoadebayo

    Oluomoadebayo Moderator Staff Member

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    Serious discussion is going on here.
     
  8. O.tayo

    O.tayo Active Member

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    Yes oo
     
  9. Temitope

    Temitope New Member

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    I dont agree. You can be a friend to someone you fell in love it . It depends on how much you can handle your relationship.
     
  10. O.tayo

    O.tayo Active Member

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    Well, that's true .
     
  11. Ifeoluwa Dorcas

    Ifeoluwa Dorcas New Member

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    My first interpretation of this question is "can a person continue to be 'just friend' after he/she fell with his/her friend"
    If this is the question, then I will say it really depends on the emotional control ability of the person. If the person has a high level of control ability and he/she feels it's not necessary to have an emotional relationship (i. e Dating) with the friend, it is very possible they remain as 'Just Friend'. But if the opposite is the case, reverse might also be the case.

    If the question is 'Can a person remain as 'Just Friend' after a break-up'
    Well, it depends too. I must say I totally agree with Ibukunoluwa
     
  12. O.tayo

    O.tayo Active Member

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    I share the same view with you.
     

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